Why are people acting so negative towards me?

Question

Well first off I am 21 years old, I graduated from high school. I have been working at my job for 2 years and I just graduated with my medical assistant certificate, but I am in school right now to get my RN License. I probable have two years left of school. but I am doing the damn thing, oh yeah and I still live at home with my parents. The problem is my mom and older brother is, criticizing me, hurting my feelings trying to tell me negative stuff, and calling me names that r not true. MY brother didn't graduate from high school no education and still live with my parents and his like 30!!!! My mom and my family sees me trying so hard to make my dreams come true, now I think shes want me to move out and I cant even afford it but they let my brother stay here for like ten years!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE SOMEBODY TELL ME WHATS GOING ON?????? but my brother is saying the most evil stuff and he telling my mom stuff that's not even true

Answer 1

Your family could be jealous that you are doing something to better you life. It's very strange but people seem to react that way especially when a sibling is doing something to better themselves. Your brother probably wishes that he had made better choices in his life and is envious of you. I think you should hold your head high and keep doing what your doing. You know that what you are doing right. Do the right thing and everything will fall into place.
Good luck!

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Answer 2

PEOPLE? You mentioned your brother.... who ELSE is acting "negative" towards you?

BOTH of you are extremely immature and WAY too sensitive. WHO CARES if he graduated or how OLD he is - neither one of you should still be living at home. You both are acting like spoiled little brats - calling names, tattling, making up things to get reactions.....good God, that is how 5 year olds act. It is high time you GROW UP and STOP letting this stupid worthless petty CRAP get under your skin! Just go to school, do your homework at the library or at a friends house, and just go "home" to sleep. That way you do not have to be around long enough to play the games with anyone. When things do start, turn your back on it and WALK AWAY. The more you play in to it by getting all hostile and defensive, the worse it will get. SOMEONE has to be an ADULT - it might as well be YOU. You are NOT a victim here - you are a PLAYER. Quit playing!!

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Answer 3

What's going on is that you don't have good communication with your family. Take the initiative to sit down with your mom privately and talk about what your plans are. Be sure she understands your goals and aspirations and what you are counting on from her while you are in school. It sounds as if you and your brother are stuck in old behaviors that aren't healthy as adults. Part of what is normal and necessary to grow up is moving out of the nest. Maybe you can find a few classmates from your nursing program to share an apartment with, this would allow you to control your environment without having the full burden of rent by yourself. No matter what you do as far as your living arrangements, it is crucial to improve communication within your family. You can help facilitate this by clearing up any misperceptions and be sure your parents understand what your plans are. good luck.

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Answer 4

They are the ones with the problem not you.
They actually probably feel inferior to you and are a bit jealous because you are succeeding and trying to be something special in life.
I would suggest getting out of the negative living situation if at all possible, or as soon as possible and live out your dreams and be somebody special, you should be very proud of yourself.
In a good family, they would be supportive of you.

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Answer 5

try and stick with them for two years as u r having ur school.... make them understand that u will be moving out once u get the opportunity... or if u can try for a job in other state or country which can provide u separate accommodation or which pays u enuff so that u can afford a room of ur home so u can just hope and once u r over from school u can alwys separate from them....

I wish if my parents wanted me out

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Answer 6

Unfortunately, there ARE people in this world who do not want to see others succeed in life. They will try to bring you down, no matter what you are doing. You have goals and you are working towards making them happen. I think it is great!

Is there another family member you could stay with? If so, try to pay some sort of rent and help out with household chores as often as you can. Good Luck to you!

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Answer 7

You are building a future for yourself: You've got the schooling and now you're working in a hopefully stable job and you are also working toward your degree/license. You were given many good opportunities and have a bright future ahead. Your brother must feel jealous because he doesn't have the things you have. As for your mother, I don't really understand. My guess is that she thinks you are capable of supporting yourself and is upset because she thinks you're just free loading. She probably also thinks you're "bullying" your brother (when he is lying to her about you) because you have had and education and will have a better future.
I don't know what you can do that will significant;y change things. Try having a talk (hopefully a calm one w/o shouting and name-calling) with your mom and brother. You should also start looking for someplace else to live. Look in the local newspaper for vacant apartments. I hope this helps at all.
Good luck!

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Answer 8

This is a very difficult question to answer without having more information.
I am only hearing your side of the story, and stories always have two sides

It is possible that your brother in uncomfortable with you because you
have achieved more than he has at an earlier time.

However, people are rarely evil without motive. Perhaps you could examine how you interact with them. Sometimes people living at home are unaware or in denial about how they might contribute to the negativity of a situations

Also, try to consider the needs of your family, not just feel picked on

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Answer 9

I feel from what you say your brother is JEALOUS...you know it is bad to be around someone that is jealous. I remember high school. Jealousy turns into nasty rumors and the person they are attacking has to say.."gosh, that is false, I do not know why she would say that about me"...Later the jealous person will deny that they said that. BUT they did...My recommendation is to TRY to stay away from your brother and his negatively. It will only HURT you...Do not be in the same room as him if you can help it...Make little small talk when YOU HAVE TO..otherwise just stay AWAY FROM HIM. This is the best advice I know...I am truly sorry your brother is like that.
Oh, boy/...did you tell your Mom that you cannot afford to move out??? That is what you need to do...JUST STAY AWAY FROM YOUR JEALOUS BROTHER; HE IS EVIL...and we stay away from evil people; or atleast we try to avoid them.

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Answer 10

be happy

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Answer 11

Your question reminds me of a story on Cold Case Files on A&E. Does that tell you something? It should. Your family mat have decided that you can make it on your own, as you should. Mothers and sons have a special bond. You say "parents", but only mention your mother; is your father out of the picture or silent? It sounds like you are being left out and your mother may be grooming your brother to inherit. You should prepare to be on your own, the sooner the better, and try to divest yourself of as many emotional encumbrances as you can until you finish school and settle down. Don't think how other people are living life, prepare yourself. No one has it easy in life all the way through, but we should not spend our time keeping score on anyone but ourselves.

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Answer 12

Your parents probably don't want to deal with two adults in there house, and want you out, seeing that you can likely provide for yourself, where your brother may not be able to.
That may not be it though. I suggest proving to your parents the truth, instead of letting them fall for your brothers evil schemes.

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Answer 13

This is a very difficult question to answer without having more information.
I am only hearing your side of the story, and stories always have two sides

It is possible that your brother in uncomfortable with you because you
have achieved more than he has at an earlier time.

However, people are rarely evil without motive. Perhaps you could examine how you interact with them. Sometimes people living at home are unaware or in denial about how they might contribute to the negativity of a situations

Also, try to consider the needs of your family, not just feel picked on....
They are the ones with the problem not you.
They actually probably feel inferior to you and are a bit jealous because you are succeeding and trying to be something special in life.
I would suggest getting out of the negative living situation if at all possible, or as soon as possible and live out your dreams and be somebody special, you should be very proud of yourself.
In a good family, they would be supportive of you........ have a nice day. i copied them a little huh...... i m sorry coz im confused........

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