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  • If your ancestors came to the US from England between 1680 and 1720, what is the closest relative you could find in England?

    So I did this DNA test where it finds relatives and my most distant cousins on there are 8th cousins.  But they are all in the US.  I was hoping to find distant cousins in the UK.  

    My ancestry is mixed with European, Native American and African but most of my European ancestry comes from the UK.  But that was over 300 years ago.  That's like 14-15 generations ago.

    So I guess someone in England could have the same great great great great great great great great great great great great grandparent as me.  So what degree cousin would that be?  

    Would that be a 13th or 14th cousin?  Would there even be enough DNA to classify them as my cousin?  Is it possible to have more similar DNA to a perfect stranger than to a 14th cousin?

    5 AnswersGenealogy2 months ago
  • How is one exact year calculated from a certain date for legal purposes?

    If you have to do something within one year of a certain date, does the one year period end on exactly the same date next year?  For example, let's say you were given a warning or put on probation for one year.  Or you have to do something within a year. Or you have to make restitution of funds within a year.  You can't be caught with a DUI within a year.  Etc.

    For example, my employer allows you to take a year off without pay and return to work within exactly a year to whatever open position they have.  If you leave on 7/20/2019 what would be an exact year from then? 7/19/2020 or 7/20/2020.  Let's say you also get out of work at 4pm does that mean you have until 4pm a year from now to return.  

    I left my job on May 4, 2019 and returned to the same position on May 3, 2020.  I rushed to fly back to the US just to go to Human Resources on that day to sign reinstatement forms.  When I mentioned how expensive the flight was and that if I could have come back the next day it would have been cheaper, I was told I actually had one more day.  But I didn't want to take any chances.

    In Science a year is actually 365 and 6 hours.  A calendar year is exactly 365 days.  A leap year is 366 days.  Do you take any of this into consideration when calculating a year for legal purposes?  Can an employer, during leap year, insist that a year is 365 days and not 366?  Can they say you signed your leave paperwork at 4:15pm but now it's a year later and it's 4:16pm so you can't come back?

    5 AnswersLaw & Ethics2 months ago
  • Why are gay men more straight acting these days?

    Maybe it's the younger generation, but it seems that the stereotypical effeminate gay man is fading away.  Most of the younger men who are gay are very straight acting for the most part.  They don't hide their gayness but they seem to be more mainstream and fit in with the regular crowd.  I am wondering what the reason for this is.

    Here's what I thought of....1.  Being gay is more accepted so people don't really have to act gay anymore because they can just say they are gay openly.2.  People who act very gay might no longer identify as gay, they may identify as trans, non binary, etc.3.  There are a lot of straight guys who claim to be gay and are experimenting with other guys but they are really straight4.  Straight guys are more wimpy these days (ie soy boys, hipsters, metrosexuals, etc) that they make gay guys look more masculine.But I don't know the reasons, I am just guessing.  

  • Why can people who clearly do not have a black complexion identify as black in the U.S. and U.K.?

    There have been several news stories of white people faking that they were black. I read today about some activist in Indianapolis.  From my experience, in the U.S. and U.K. all you have to do is say you are black and in most cases, people will accept you as black.

    There are even very light skinned "black" people and white people who have significant black ancestry, who identify as black when their skin isn't even brown.  And many of these people would NOT be visibly identified by others as black. 

    On tv there was a lady who looked like a white woman who was complaining about being discriminated as a black woman.  Really?  How would anyone know she was a "black" woman as she claims if she does not have brown skin or African features? 

    There were stories of this "black internet hacker" from the UK, a very young and good looking guy.  He was all over the news. But when I saw his white skin, red hair and freckles I thought, how could they say this guy is black?  

    In most non-English speaking countries it does not work that way.  Your race goes by your skin color.  In Brazil, for example, you can have siblings who are different races because they count your race according to your skin color.  

    I am 28% black genetically but I look like Scottish.  I don't go around saying that I am black, because my skin is white.  I look at lot like that internet hacker except that my hair is straighter.  I am not embarrassed by my black ancestry but how could I identify as black?

    3 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups2 months ago
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    Does your race have to match your ethnicity on the US Census?

    Apparently my Census response form got lost in the mail and a worker with a tablet showed up at my door.  My family is pretty mixed but this is the way we answered the Census worker....

    Question: Are you Hispanic/Latino - YES

    We chose "Another Hispanic, Latino or Spanish Origin"

    Question: Print origin for example Argentinian, Colombian, Dominican Republic, etc..

    We answered: American

    Race - White

    Ancestry/Ethnicity - American

    I know over 25 million Americans claim "American" as their ethnicity on the Census but I always thought you had to be a white non-Hispanic American to say that you were ethnically "American".  But the census worker said that the majority of white people in Kentucky, Tennessee, West Virginia and Missouri declare their ancestry as "American".

    He also said that a lot of non whites, especially those who are very mixed or don't feel any connection to any other ethnic group, also declare their ancestry as "American".  He said that your ancestry is what you identify with.  

    He gave me the example of the community of Polish Haitians living in Haiti, they are black but mixed with long ago Polish military personnel.  So he said he had a Haitian family list their race as "Black" but their ethnicity as "Polish".

    So I looked it up and Polish Haitians do exist.  But what if you put a race and ethnicity combination that might not exist.  Let's say you put your race as "Asian" but your ethnicity as "Italian".  Will the census bureau accept that?

    4 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups3 months ago
  • How is religion tied to ethnic identity in the UK and Ireland?

    I can speak from experience that in Eastern Europe, religion is tied to your ethnicity.  For example, in Eastern Poland if you are Eastern Orthodox, Jewish or Muslim you would not be considered to be ethnically Polish, even though you might actually be or claim to be.  Polish people would not accept you as one of "them".

    So in the NE areas of Poland, you can speak Polish, claim to be Polish, your ancestors are from that area but if you are Eastern Orthodox then people would consider you to be Belarusian or Russian.  If you are Muslim, you would be considered Lipka Tatar.  If you convert to Catholicism, then you also "become" Polish in people's eyes.  

    In the former Yugoslavia you cannot be Serbian and Catholic, you would then not be considered to be really Serbian.  Only Croatians are Catholic.  If you are Muslim then you are Bosnian and of course if you are Serbian you have to be from an Eastern Orthodox family.  If you are non religious or atheist people consider your previous religious affiliation or that of your family to assign you to an ethnicity.

    So in the UK, if someone in Belfast identifies as Ulster-Scots but they are Catholic, would they be seen as Ulster-Scots or as Irish?  Conversely, if you live in the Republic of Ireland and are from a Protestant family, would you truly be recognized as being Irish?  If you change religion does your ethnic affiliation change?  How about the rest of the UK?  A Catholic Englishman or Welsh person?  

    4 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups3 months ago
  • Why do some people get so offended when you identify your ethnicity as "American"?

    Any educated person can tell you that ethnicity for the most part is a choice.  It's whatever group you identify with.  And non-ethnic Americans have similar language, customs and traditions that will immediately cause them to be identified as Americans when they are in other countries.  I, along with over more than 30 million Americans, listed "American" as their ethnicity on the US Census. The Census bureau expects this number to be even on the 2020 Census.  

    People don't seem to understand that every ethnicity is made from other ethnicities and that people have been moving on Earth for thousands of years.  The Egyptians today are not same people who built the pyramids, though I'm sure some of their ancestors were.  Mexico was colonized by Spain and Mexicans have Spanish, French and even German ancestry.  Kamala Harris is "Jamaican", but the original Jamaicans were Native Americans.

    Personally, I really don't give a shyt what people think, I consider my ethnicity to be American, it's considered official on the US Census, if you don't like it, go phuc yourself.  But why do those people who don't consider being "American" an ethnicity take it so personally and want to shove their views down your throat.  

    When I told my friend that there was no such thing as Polish people, the Poles are just a mixture of Lithuanians, Russians, Finns and some Asian he was really offended.  Even though DNA documents show people from Eastern Poland to have as little as 3-5% Polish ancestry.  

    4 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups3 months ago
  • Are the Ulster Scots/Scotch-Irish from Northern Ireland the same people/race as the Catholic Irish?

    Scotland was settled by Celts from Ireland many hundreds of years ago.  A few hundred years ago Scottish Protestants settled Northern Ireland. So in effect they actually went back to the place where their ancestors originally came from.

    So I am American and I consider my ethnicity as being "American".  When I took a DNA test it matched me up to the Appalachian Region of the US.  But it also matched me to Ireland.  Specifically, Belfast and Bangor.  My ancestors from Ireland were Ulster-Scots who settled in the US in the 1700's.

    If a Catholic from Belfast and a Protestant from Belfast took a DNA test, would it show both of them the be from the same region and/or ethnicity.  On many DNA tests is shows Spain/Portugal as one ethnicity, on is shows Poland/Lithuania as one ethnicity.  So I am wondering if people just choose what they want to be.

    Would an Irish Catholic show up as the same ethnicity as an Ulster Scots Protestant on DNA test?  How about an Ulster Scots who happens to be Catholic?

    4 AnswersGenealogy3 months ago
  • Do most people go by their genetic ethnicity or the origin of their ancestors?

    I put "American" on the 2020 census for my ethnicity, but some people who feel a connection to their ancestors' origins say that they're 1/2 Italian, 1/4 Irish, 1/4 Polish etc.  I never gave it much thought.  I assumed, if your grandmother was from Poland,  you're 1/4 Polish.  But with DNA testing I learned.....

    1.  You don't inherit 25% of your DNA from each grandparent.  It's possible your dad  can only pass along DNA from his mother.  So if his father was Italian and he didn't pass along any DNA from his father or just a few percent, then can you really consider yourself to be 25% Italian?  Full siblings can get different DNA results, one sister can show 25% Irish ancestry and the other can show 2% Irish ancestry.  Can the sister with one Irish grandparent but who's DNA is only 2% Irish, consider herself to be 25% Irish?

    2.  People in all countries are mixed.  So unless you are from an isolated island or a remote jungle, you don't have pure ancestry.  The average native person from Spain is only 55% Spanish.  If one of your parents is from Spain are you technically 27.5% Spanish.  The average Polish person is only 65% Polish.  In Ireland people have on average 10-15% Spanish ancestry.  My 100% Polish friend who took a DNA test showed as 5% Polish.  He's from Eastern Poland, which was originally Lithuania, Belarus and Ukraine.  

    What would most people go by?  The actual DNA they inherited?  Where their ancestors are from?  What ethnicity their ancestors claimed to be?

    2 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups3 months ago
  • Why is it common for people to brag about things that make them seem like they struggled?

    When many people speak about their lives they tend to make comments like that they were "the first generation to finish college", "the son or daughter of immigrants", "the child of a single parent", "survivor of sexual abuse", etc.

    But you never hear anyone say that they are "the child of parents and grandparents who went to college", "part of a family where all of their ancestors for 10 generations were born in the US", :"their ancestors came on the Mayflower", "the child of happily married parents", "the product of a great household".

    It's similar to when people brag about speeding, running stop signs or not paying their bills but no one says that they drove the speed limit, drove carefully and have a high credit score.  

    Is it part of the victim mentality?  Do people think it makes them look like they've accomplished more?

    3 AnswersEtiquette4 months ago
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    Why can't people understand that the word "America" does NOT have the same meaning in English and Spanish?

    I speak English and Spanish but many of my Spanish speaking only relatives don't seem to understand that the word "America" means two separate things in English and in Spanish.  In English, America refers to the United States but in Spanish it refers to both North and South America together.  Although when Spanish speaking people say the word "americano" they are referring to your stereotypical non-ethnic type Americans.  

    So I searched of "Map of America" in Google and it only shows the US.  But when I search up "Mapa de America" it shows both North and South America.  So why don't people get that "America" means different things in different languages.  But it seems like people want to believe only their own point of view.  There are plenty of similar words that mean different things in English and Spanish...embarazada/embarrassed, assistir/asist, molestar/molest, actual/actual, exito/exit, etc.  

    English speaking people will argue that it's the United States only.  Spanish speaking people will argue that it refers to the entire hemisphere.  So why can't people get it that "America" in English is not the same as "America" in Spanish or other languages?  Yes, America is only the United States in ENGLISH but America includes Mexico, Canada, Brazil, etc. in Spanish.  So when speaking English, this is America and Mexico is not.  When speaking Spanish, Mexico tambien es America.

    2 AnswersLanguages4 months ago
  • Why are Americans obsessed with the ethnicity of their ancestors?

    My Mexican coworker took a DNA test that shows him to be 30% Native American (Aztec), 40% Spanish, 14% French, 6% German, 5% African and small percents of other misc ancestries. But he turns around and says that he's 100% Mexican. And the thing is that not all Mexicans look the same, some are white, others are mixed looking and many are downright American Indian looking.  I have NEVER heard a Mexican, Colombian, Jamaican, etc. say they're half this, half that.

    For the first time on the census I put my ethnicity as "American". But it's only in the South that the majority of Americans put their ethnicity as "American" on the census. In most other states it's usually about 10-20%. Even in Canada, a much larger percentage of the population claims Canadian ancestry even though some of their ancestors may have come from somewhere else.   

    The funny thing is that most immigrants in the US such as Latinos and Asians do refer to being "American" as an ethnicity. My Mexican neighbor told me there was someone on my porch ringing my bell. When I asked them to describe the guy, they said he was American. The American Chinese people who own the restaurant by my house have also referred to your typical "non ethnic" Americans as "American" and looking "American".

    4 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups4 months ago
  • Is it possible to tell that I am using a PO Box instead of my real address?

    A few years ago the USPS started allowing street addressing for PO Boxes.  So you can use the address of the post office instead of writing PO Box 1234, City, State and ZIP.  My post office box happens to be on the first floor of a 10 story residential building.  The bottom floor is all businesses including the post office.

    The building apartments are labeled as 4A, 4B, 6F, etc.   But the PO Boxes are numbered 201, 202, 603, 705, etc.  So I can either write my PO Box address as:  P.O. Box 404, City, State, Zip or I can write 1744 N. Ashbury Ave, #404, City, State and Zip.  Even thought the PO instructions say to write Ste 404 or Box 404 after the address I usually put Apt 404 or # 404.

    So I am wondering if I used this address for my drivers license or for my kids to attend school in the area where the post office is, would there be a database showing that I am actually using a PO Box or would they think I live in the building?  And how would they know that if the PO address is the same as the residential apartments.  Thanks. 

    9 AnswersRenting & Real Estate7 months ago
  • How can you hide your bank account from creditors?

    My son just got out of prison about a year ago and was finally able to get a job.  Because he was locked up he fell behind on a lot of bills and has creditors after him.  Even though we are Americans, he took a job that illegal immigrants usually do, painting houses, because they pay cash under the table and don't even ask your name. 

    Last summer on a road trip to Utah, I saw a really small bank along the way in a small town in South Dakota.  I got the idea that a creditor could never find that bank account since it was a small bank with only two branches in that South Dakota town.  I told him to lie to them and say we were moving there and that he needed to have a bank account in town.  

    Since he has bad credit and marks against him on Chex Systems I asked if they did any type of check and they said no.  They simply said that the first 90 days he was on probation and if anything went wrong with the account they would close it.  We ordered the free Chex Systems report and there was nothing on it from this bank.

    When my son gets paid, in cash, he goes to a bank in our area or a check cashing store and buys a money order with the cash.  He makes the money order out to cash and then deposits it in his South Dakota account with a mobile app.  And of course he doesn't use bill pay or any transfer features on the account.

    He has another account that he has used before so there's a paper trail.  The creditors tried to levy that account but there's only $25 in there.  

    4 AnswersPersonal Finance7 months ago
  • How much time does a landlord have to sue a tenant for damage to an apartment?

    I moved out of my old apartment 7 years ago.  We bought a house around the corner so I see my old landlady's family occasionally.  My security deposit was $1,500 and she gave me back $1,200 accusing me of damage that we didn't do. We lived there for 8 years and were on good terms.

    A storm knocked a tree branch through my window.  I immediately went downstairs.  They boarded it up.  On two occasions the drain was clogged and they fixed it.  In the bathroom there was a leak in the roof and it caused streaks down the wall and there was a big dent in the stove which I had a picture of when I moved in.

    She threw all that in my face.  I had to go to her house several times after I moved out to get the security deposit.  It took several weeks but I wouldn't leave her alone.  On move out day her sons tried to stop me from taking pictures.  I was ready to pay her $200-$300 for some damage we had really done.  But they didn't even notice it.

    My kids broke a corner off the granite counter top in the kitchen and I fixed it with crazy glue and made it shiny with clear nail polish.  When I was getting something out of the fridge, I slipped and broke off 4 plastic shelves which I glued back on.  My son actually did break the bathroom window and there's a couple of other things they never noticed.

    So when I see them I want to tell them so badly what we broke.  Hopefully, they didn't accuse the tenants who moved in after us.  But I am wondering if the statute of limitations has passed.  

    11 AnswersRenting & Real Estate7 months ago
  • Why can't I stop buying hand sanitizer and wipes?

    I live in an area where the corona virus did not hit hard at all.  I don't know anyone who has it and the hospitals are at 25% capacity.  We didn't have any shortages of toilet paper or bottled water like I saw on tv.  The only thing the stores always run out of are hand sanitizer and disinfectant wipes.

    So when someone calls me or a neighbor tells me a store is selling hand sanitizer I drop everything, get in the car and go to that store.  If they have a limit of how many you can buy, I take my kids and send them in separately.  I have also grabbed one or two and hidden them behind something else like dog food and then I go back later.

    I also ask the clerks at the stores what days and times they get their deliveries.  Then I go to the store at that time and wait for them to unpack.  Sometimes that an hour or two later.  I have about 50 bottles that we haven't used yet at home but I can't stop buy it and I don't know why.

    Is it because there's a shortage.  It's really becoming an obsession.  The wipes are not that much of a problem because the stores have them all the time but they just keep them in the back or behind the counter, you have to ask an employee.  But they always run out of hand sanitizer.

    4 AnswersOther - Society & Culture7 months ago
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    Why don't most people understand that in every country everyone came from somewhere else?? ?

    I have been working with people on the Census and have been helping them fill out the form. The main questions about origin are....

    1. Hispanic or Not-Hispanic

    2. Race: White, Black, Asian, Native American, etc 

    3. Ancestry: American, French, German, Navajo, African-American, etc 

    Many people put "American" as their ancestry and the amount of people putting their ancestry as American has increased with each census. These people have assimilated into American culture and have no ties to any other language or culture. And usually people whose ancestors came here hundreds of years ago do have some Native American ancestry.

    But it seems some people who decide to write in an ethnicity other than "American" such as Irish, German, Polish, Mexican, Korean, etc get offended and claim there is no such thing as an "American" ethnicity. My response is to put what they want but that they have no right to tell someone else what to put.

    Their main argument is that everyone here came from somewhere else. But that's the case for every country in the world. Mexico was colonized by people from Spanish yet we acknowledge a Mexican ethnicity. In Canada over 50% of the people claim Canadian ancestry.

    In Eastern Poland people are descendants of Lithuanians and Ukrainians. Genetically, the average Italian person in Italy is only about 40% Italian with Greek, Spanish, Arab, French and African ancestry. So I don't get it. Why the double standard? And why the agitation and offense?

    3 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups7 months ago
  • What's the chances you could be related to a random person in your city/state?

    I have been doing a lot of DNA tests out of curiosity. I have done 23andMe and also In addition to telling your race, it also tells you who your relatives are.

    So much to my surprise it showed that I was related, to two of my friends. One is my third cousin the other one was my fourth cousin. We confirmed this when we compared our family trees. It also showed a lot of cousins close to me who I don't know.

    I also read that Barack Obama and George Bush are distant cousins and that Obama is also related to Brad Pitt. It also said Bill Clinton is related to Angelina Jolie. It's actually hard to wrap your mind around this.

    For me it showed that I was descended from President Andrew Jackson. So is this a coincidence or is it quite common?

    5 AnswersGenealogy7 months ago
  • What's the difference if something tastes bad or has no taste?

    Sometimes food tastes bad and you want to spit it out.  But there are other circumstances where something is bland or has no taste.  But I've tried explaining this to people and they don't seem to get it.  They say either it tastes bad or it doesn't.

    4 AnswersOther - Food & Drink7 months ago
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    How can a DNA test tell if you are American?  ?

    I did a DNA Test and it classified my ancestry as "American".  It listed my racial composition as 45% White, 32% Black, 20% Native American and 3% South Asian.  It also show the region in the US where my ancestors are from.  I am attaching the map from my DNA profile.  

    Now it's pretty accurate.  My ancestors are from the south.  And it was explained to me by someone at the DNA company's 800 number that my unique racial makeup is only found in the United States.  But I am wondering how did they know which part of the United States.

    And also, my racial mixture, white, black and American Indian can probably be found in Canada, Puerto Rico, Brazil, Jamaica, etc.  So why didn't I match up to those countries?  How could they be so sure I am American?  And how could they be correct as to the states where my family is from?

    4 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups7 months ago