i have been married for 27 years. first 11 months were ok but the rest has been hell. 1 affair on both of us drug use from both, i have been 23 years clean on the drugs he has been 21 years clean on the drugs. he still drink an easy 400.00 per month by his self. he spends his weekends with his friends( sleep overs) we both work full time. and i have custody of three grand children mutual agreement, between him and myself we are suppose to be doing this together.. not! in short he has a passive aggressive behavior, and the more i find out about him i find i do not like him at all. But my thing right now others are telling me how to love this man who has supplied me with nothing, but many weekends alone handling all of the household responsibility. Yes he works but he has not paid a bill or assumed responsibility of the bills he creates. i can deal with that for now what i don't like is that people including my children think i will cry if he died. there is honestly nothing there. I try to say nothing but they won't let it go, and tell them when they bring that situation up they remind me of what i never had. a marriage, or a husband, and please just to leave it alone. I am not here by choice but, because this is where i have spent my life time investment. i am tired and i am to old to work with someone who will not work for himself. and he is mean.