I've been seeing this guy for 6 weeks; we'll call him Dave. We really hit it off and felt like we 'fell in love' real quickly. It's been a very hot and humid summer here so we have spent all this time at his place watching movies and making love. (He has central air; I don't.) He says he loves me and would be devastated if I were to leave him, and that he's never met anyone like me. We're not teenagers, and both have had serious relationships prior to this.
At the end of week 4, I was starting to get upset that he had yet to take me out on a date. (I am over-weight and started wondering if he was ashamed to be seen with me.) I told him I was starting to feel like a booty call and that upset him because he took it to mean that I was calling him a liar for the times he said he loved me and such.
We finally went out a week ago Saturday. It was to a bar opening to which I was designated driver for him and one of his friends. I felt happy that we were finally going on a 'sort of' date. During our time there, he played pool with his friend for about 5 games while I just sat at the bar; he never asked me to play pool. A few days after that, I noticed on his Facebook page that he was still listed as 'Interested in women' although he had also listed that he was in a relationship with me and I sort of lost it.
I finally told him how I'd been feeling. I didn't want to really say much before because I didn't want him to take me out because I made an issue out of it. I needed to feel like he WANTED to take me out and be seen with me. He was upset and accused me of calling him a liar for the times he told me he loved me; that I didn't believe in him and called but I didn't return his call because I was so hurt. That was a few days ago and I haven't heard from him since. Prior to all this, he had bought me flowers and candy a couple of times, but just never took me out on a date. Am I wrong to feel insecure about the relationship? About myself? Could it be that he's just really clueless when it comes to 'romancing' a woman' in terms of taking her out to a movie or dinner? (He makes decent money.)
Did I sabotage something that had really good potential because of past hurts and insecurities or was I right to wonder if I was only a little more than a booty call?