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  • My ex ignores me and has refused to talk to me for years?

    I have an ex that I've been divorced fom for over 20 years. We share two grown children. We often will go out with the kids for different events, birthday dinners, etc. Everytime we go out, my ex makes me sit in the back seat of the car which I hate. 

    When we get to the place, he does not say one word to me the entire time. I do often bring up things or show him pictures to initiate conversation but he will shut me down with one word answers and go back to completely ignoring me again. He will talk to my children but not me at all.

    It often makes me feel very awkward and people will even look over. I finally decided I am not going to be a part of anything he is at anymore. It is very dysfunctional. Why would my ex ignore me outright for years?

    5 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships3 weeks ago
  • This person started putting me down for no reason, why?

    I met a guy on a date site. He was kind of unclear to what his situation was as he seemed to be staying in many different cities. I decided to give him my phone number to text. He asked me to video message him and I said I do that once I know a little bit more about the person first. He wanted a headshot and didn't like the angle of my pictures because I tend to take them with my phone higher up.

    He went off on me and started calling me a phony, a liar, and a fool. Just because I didn't want to give him lots of pictures and video message him.I did send one picturre but he didn't think it was sufficient. Could this be an unstable person or is this a person I may have met on the site before? Should I respond to this or leave it alone? He already went off the site.

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating1 month ago
  • What should I think about this situation?

    I'm a middle-aged single woman and I am on two date sites. I am also a pet sitter and I post my ads on a certain site. I have a friend who has a roommate (the roommate is an old friend of mine). My friend, he became sensitive and offended when I told him that I felt that him and his partner share a very codependent relationship. I notice he doesn't really speak to me anymore through email. 

    Only a few select people know that I place my pet services on a certain site. Someone was posing to be a younger man who was interested and asked me for a date in response to my pet sitting ad. Yet he doesn't even know what I look like, so that's why I think he is fake. I also recently received a very fake message from a "joker" on my date site that was obviously a made-up profile.

    I get the feeling, what would be the likelihood that it would be someone I know sending me weird things on a date site and my job site?

    2 AnswersEtiquette2 months ago
  • My son is holding this over my head and wants to move with his dad?

    I am a mom in my 50's. My ex and I share a son who is 19 years old. He spends some of the time at his dad's house and some with me and my two older kids (his sister and brother) in our apartment. My son and I are very close. 

    We plan to move to a larger apartment soon but we are having a lot of trouble because of the Covid situation and some of us being furloughed, etc. My son wants to move by September 1st of this year. I have explained to him with this situation, we are unable to do it at the moment but we will move as soon as possible. We live in a building that can get kind of loud and it is on a busy street. My son says he loses sleep here and he complains about a lot of things here where we live.

    His father is planning to move to Idaho sometime next year because he plans to buy to get a loan to buy a house out there. My son keeps holding it over my head that if I don't move by September 1st he might entertain the idea of moving with his dad out of state. I am mind boggled because he is not close to his father at all. I told him if he were to move out of state that I would not see much of him. 

    I don't understand why my son is giving me ultimatums or what the rush is by September 1st. I've explained to him that it's tough right now but he continues to hold this over my head. Any advice?

    24 AnswersFamily2 months ago
  • Should I reconnect with an old flame?

    I am a middle-aged attractive woman and I have a friend I have known for years. I have known him since I was about 19 or 20 years old and we dated briefly when I was that age. We both ended up marrying others and having children. We are both now divorced and we are both now single and in our 50's. We lost touch for a while but now we got in touch again on Facebook.     

        

    He asked me to go to dinner and I feel very reluctant because so many years have passed that I would feel awkward now. Also, my family and his family all know each other so it would feel awkward for me if something happened between us. I told him I would think about it but he became insulted and said I have known him long and asked why I would hesitate. I am puzzled as to why he would ask after such a long time. Is it rude of me to say that it would feel awkward for me?

    3 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships3 months ago
  • Was I right in this situation?

    I met a guy online who was younger than me. We actually went out once and spent the day together. After the date, he said I was nice but did not want any kind of relationship. We lost contact for a while and he found me on a date site. He began chatting with me by texting me every night for two months. He wanted to text me and flirt every now and then and see pictures of me in different outfits. He became mad when I said I felt uncomfortable flirting over text. I told him that it doesn't make sense to text every night unless we are going to meet. He said he was not comfortable to meet me just yet.  

     

    He told me it took him a lot to step out of his "comfort zone" to see me and wished that I would not pressure him. He was like that the last time we met too. He was wanting to talk to me a lot through text but was reluctant to meet for lunch. I told him to please stop texting me unless he plans to see me. He told me I can't make him feel uncomfortable. Is it wrong for me to have said to him to stop texting me every night unless we are going to meet in person?

    13 AnswersEtiquette3 months ago
  • Should I reconnect with an old flame?

    I am a middle-aged attractive woman and I have a friend I have known for years. I have known him since I was about 19 or 20 years old and we dated briefly when I was that age. We both ended up marrying others and having children. We are both now divorced and we are both now single and in our 50's. We lost touch for a while but now we got in touch again on Facebook.    

       

    He asked me to go to dinner and I feel very reluctant because so many years have passed that I would feel awkward now. Also, my family and his family all know each other so it would feel awkward for me if something happened between us. I told him I would think about it but he became insulted and said I have known him long and asked why I would hesitate. I am puzzled as to why he would ask after such a long time. Is it rude of me to say that it would feel awkward for me?

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating3 months ago
  • What am I doing wrong?

    I'm a middle-aged attractive woman. I have been on a date site for a while. I show flattering pictures, try to have good conversations, I act friendly. I get a lot of guys that just want to do small chat or they say things like you are very beautiful, anyone should be glad to have you but they don't ask me out. A lot of the guys on there chat or want a virtual relationship.

    This one guy texts me every single day and even offered to buy lingerie for me. I see no point in this because he always just texts me day to day things. No one seems to be interested in any sort of relationship yet they find me attractive.

    Most of the guys are usually younger than me but even the middle-aged ones aren't looking for a relationship. What am I doing wrong?

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating5 months ago
  • What could this person want?

    I met a guy on a site and he is younger than me. He has asked if he can buy me lingerie so I can show it off. I feel strange, we've met in person before only once but he is extremely virtual so he only texts me. He is not into actually dating in person. What should I do about this?

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating5 months ago
  • What is this person's intention?

    I met a guy online and we started chatting and we took it to text message. I am looking for a dating relationship. When I asked him what he was looking for, he said he is not looking for anything serious and is not looking to date. He said he would agree to meet me after this Covid isolation passes to meet for lunch. What's really strange is that he texts me every single day. Why would you text a woman every single day if you are not looking for a relationship?

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating5 months ago
  • Is it safe to get a regular blood test this week with COVID going around?

    My new doctor wants me to get a regular blood and urine test and I was going to get it done this week. Is this a bad time to get it done during this COVID-19 outbreak?

    3 AnswersOther - Health6 months ago
  • Should I avoid getting on the phone?

    I have an ex-boyfriend that I broke up with 10 years ago. We share an 18 year-old-son. Every once in a while, my ex will call me to talk about something regarding our son. His dad wanted to talk to me about my son getting a job. It always becomes questions about me and what I'm doing in my personal life, including jobs and what my plans are, etc. It usually ends up in him putting me down and I have told him if we are going to discuss our son, we only need to stick to the subject. It is getting to the point where I cannot talk on the phone anymore. Is it best to discuss our son or just ignore?

    9 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships8 months ago
  • Is it a bad idea to have someone over the first time?

    I am a middle-aged woman and I met a younger man on a date site. We spoke on the phone today and he seemed nice. He said he was interested in meeting me but he wants to meet me at my place and hang out. I said no and that I don't meet anybody I don't know at my place and also I live with my kids. He was kind of pushing it and he really wishes he can come over for the first time and maybe have some wine.

    I asked him if he would be willing to meet for a bite to eat to get to know each other first and maybe come over some time in the future? He has not answered me. Is it a bad idea to have a man over for the first time at your home if you have never met?

    9 AnswersSingles & Dating10 months ago
  • How should I discuss these things?

    I am a middle-aged woman. I met a younger guy on a date site about 3 months ago. He has slight cerebral palsy. We text and talk on the phone regularly and although we have not met, he has mentioned wanting to marry further on down the road and wanting me to live there with him. There are a couple of major problems with that. 

    One is that he lives with his parents and he says that's what they do in his culture. He will also be home all day long because he is on social security so it will be very hard to have a relationship. Plus, he lives about an hour and a half away.

    I have shared these things with him and he just says that he will make it work out. Is this something I should keep discussing with him? As I think this is going to be a major problem for me.

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating10 months ago
  • Is this a red flag situation?

    I am a middle-aged woman and I met a younger man on a date site. He has mild cerebral palsy. He lives distantly about an hour and a half away from me. He does not have any problems with speech but does have some problems with walking. 

    He is moving very quickly. He has mentioned that I am everything he has ever been looking for although we just talk on the phone and text. He always says he wants a life with me. We have not yet met. He wants me and my two kids to come to meet him near Christmas. I am overwhelmed as to why he is so set on me. He has mentioned recently, something about being eligible for extra money if he gets a caretaker. I am also wondering if this is not a red flag situation. I am hesitant to meet him because it is moving too fast. Is this a red flag?

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating10 months ago
  • Is there a connection still?

    I am a middle-aged woman and I met a nice guy on a date site three months ago. He is divorced and was married for 10 years. He also divorced this woman 10 years ago. 

    He told me last night that his ex, although she is remarried, still calls him on the phone for marital advice and other things. Apparently, she has Asperger's. He feels the need to help her. He told me he has a nurturing personality and that she calls him but he does help her out. 

    He says he really likes me and is very much falling for me but we have not yet met in person. We just talk on the phone and do video messaging and text messaging. Does this mean that he is still stuck on his ex? He talks about her a lot during conversation.

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating11 months ago
  • Should I be honest about the age difference?

    I recently went on a date site and met a really nice guy. He is 17 years younger than me but we really connect well. The only problem is he thinks that I am only 10 years older because I posted the age on my site. I want to tell him my true age but I was wondering if I should wait to see him in person before I tell him this. Is it best to tell him in person?

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating11 months ago
  • Why is this man being so overzealous if he hasn't met me in person?

    I am a middle-aged lady who met a guy on a site a little over a month ago. He lives distantly, about three hours away. He is younger than me. He has told me recently that we connect well and that he wants a future with me. He is becoming very serious. I am getting very nervous because we haven't met in person yet. Why is this person being so overzealous with me?

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating12 months ago
  • Is it possible to fall in love with someone you haven't met in one month?

    I met a man online about a month ago. He is a little younger than me. We both agree that we connect on every level. He lives out of area about 3 hours away from me. Tonight, he told me he feels he is falling in love with me. He wants to get together with me but him and his family are moving to a new house soon. He has a slight physical disability, cerebral palsy, but he is a very bright person. I feel unsure about what to do about this situation. We have not met in person but have been chatting through text and audio messaging. Is it possible to fall in love with a person that you've been chatting with for only one month?

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating12 months ago
  • What should I say to this person?

    I met somebody on a date site three weeks ago. We do hit it off and share a lot of commonality but he is moving too fast. He is moving to a new house soon and he said he more than likes me and wants me. He says he has never felt this way about anyone before. He said that in this new house he wants to be with me in different rooms and the bathtub. He does not know me and we have not met in person. I explained this to him but he keeps saying he doesn't think we will have any issues. What can I say to this guy so he can take it down a few notches? He is moving too fast for me. He lives further away so getting together might be an issue.

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago