• Are my parents too strict?

    I m 23 years old and my parents still want me to be home at a certain time (3am). I know it s not an early curfew but I m an adult with a full time job. I ve also had a rough couple of years going through school, relationships, and hanging out with the wrong people. Recently my parents went through my purse without... show more
    I m 23 years old and my parents still want me to be home at a certain time (3am). I know it s not an early curfew but I m an adult with a full time job. I ve also had a rough couple of years going through school, relationships, and hanging out with the wrong people. Recently my parents went through my purse without me knowing and found something I shouldn t have had in the first place which I m not proud of but its something I want to leave in the past and I ve been trying to be more responsible and calm down on the partying. My parents are very religious, they won t even let me drink they think even a glass of wine will make me a bad person. Are my parents too strict?
    39 answers · 2 days ago
  • My parents won't let me go outside they say that it's "too dangerous" and no one my age should go out without an adult (I'm 14..)?

    they say it's because of a kid my age was killed.. but they were really far away from us.. if I ask my mom to go to the park ( which is a one minute walk from my house ) she will yell at me. I want more freedom but I don't know what to do..
    they say it's because of a kid my age was killed.. but they were really far away from us.. if I ask my mom to go to the park ( which is a one minute walk from my house ) she will yell at me. I want more freedom but I don't know what to do..
    29 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do I deal with my dad trying to chat up other women over Facebook?

    Just a bit of background to show you what I m going through: -My mom and dad are married -My dad has lost his job last year and has been at home ever since -My mom has been sacrificing so much and trying to pay his debt. -I really love both of them and dint want anything to happen to them -My parents are old... show more
    Just a bit of background to show you what I m going through: -My mom and dad are married -My dad has lost his job last year and has been at home ever since -My mom has been sacrificing so much and trying to pay his debt. -I really love both of them and dint want anything to happen to them -My parents are old (Age 58 and 66) A couple of months ago my dad asked me to help him with something on his phone but when sorting the problem out I went into his Facebook messenger and saw he was sending message to the women and telling them that they look stunning and stuff. Most of them never replied but it still bothered me, I eventually forgot about it. I deleted some of the chats so that it wouldn t get further. I don t think he even realised that they stop replying because it so freaking weird and it makes him look dumb. Today the same situation happened and I saw he has been doing the same crap. And this really made me angry and I don t know what to do. My dad and I don t have the best relationship, we aren t the ones who would speak about sensitive topics or get into emotional issues. This whole thing gets to me so much because I m the only one who knows about it and my mother does so freaking much for him and it s like he has no shame. I really need help with this, I don t know how to confront him about it.
    5 answers · 7 hours ago
  • Unwanted comments about my father's terminal illness?

    My father was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer and is very sick from chemo at the moment. I know I might be being over sensitive but im finding everyone's comments very inconsiderate and annoying. My cousin (who is well aware of my father's illness) asked me 'how are you? What have you been up... show more
    My father was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer and is very sick from chemo at the moment. I know I might be being over sensitive but im finding everyone's comments very inconsiderate and annoying. My cousin (who is well aware of my father's illness) asked me 'how are you? What have you been up to?' when I bumped into her the other day, which I found extremely rude. She was acting like i am not going through the situation!! My other cousin keeps sending me 'herbal cancer remedies' which is so rude. Since when did she become a cancer expert. Everyone is irritating me. I am not sure if they mean to upset me. I remember not knowing what to say when my best friends dad was dying so I kind of understand. But it so hard when the shoe is on the other foot. How do you deal with these comments
    38 answers · 4 days ago
  • Is this Dad being taken advantage of?

    My boyfriend of six years has a 22 year old son at home. i maintain my own home. My boyfriend is always talking about preparing his son to leave home. I recently found out (accidentally) that the 22 year olds best friend is moving into the house with them. And not only that, but the friends pregnant girlfriend.... show more
    My boyfriend of six years has a 22 year old son at home. i maintain my own home. My boyfriend is always talking about preparing his son to leave home. I recently found out (accidentally) that the 22 year olds best friend is moving into the house with them. And not only that, but the friends pregnant girlfriend. These kids have jobs and families and there's no reason for them to be crashing and eating at my boyfriends home. (he works till late in the evening). I have no rights or say, but I don't at all like how this is going down.
    12 answers · 1 day ago
  • Family or Myself?

    So I'm 22, last september my mother died and left me with a home that i cant really afford to keep. Basically she had bought it from her mom and its a family home, been in the family for 50yrs. My nanny lived with us but shes now moving out. Anyways, i have alot of bad memories of the house, i found my mom in... show more
    So I'm 22, last september my mother died and left me with a home that i cant really afford to keep. Basically she had bought it from her mom and its a family home, been in the family for 50yrs. My nanny lived with us but shes now moving out. Anyways, i have alot of bad memories of the house, i found my mom in the bathroom the day she died and so i dont want to live here. The house is valued at £110,000, however my aunts would like it to stay in the family but they can only offer £70,000. Now with out doubt that is alot of money for a person at my age. But this property is the only thing i have, the money would set me up for my future. I personally feel as though i should in this case look out for myself and secure my future. Because I looked after my mom for 10yrs and in all honesty im tired and want a break. I discussed this with my aunt today, but instead of having a nice discussion she got angry. She has threatened to speak to a lawyer and has also said that the entire family will abandon me if i choose to sell the house outside the family. Now, I would have been ok with selling the house within the family if she had of talked to me reasonably but instead she blackmailed me basically which was a shock to be honest. Now instead of simply looking at the situation as £40,000 extra in my future funds bank or make the family happy i also have to take into account the fact that i've been made out to be the bad guy, when i never asked to be put into this position.
    9 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Do you like your siblings?

    Out of the 4 main family groups, which are parents, siblings, spouse and children, siblings seem to be the least one people care about, and generally, they are the only one's out of them that many people are not willing to give money to. why is this? do they think nothing of their siblings? do you like your... show more
    Out of the 4 main family groups, which are parents, siblings, spouse and children, siblings seem to be the least one people care about, and generally, they are the only one's out of them that many people are not willing to give money to. why is this? do they think nothing of their siblings? do you like your siblings?
    56 answers · 5 days ago
  • 10 year old brother always wants to be alone?

    Hey guys my 10 year old little brother recently has wanted to be alone, this has been going on for the last month and a half, I hear him crying a lot and I try to comfort him but his door is locked and won't talk when I ask him what's wrong, I'm very concerned about him, I just want to hold him so bad... show more
    Hey guys my 10 year old little brother recently has wanted to be alone, this has been going on for the last month and a half, I hear him crying a lot and I try to comfort him but his door is locked and won't talk when I ask him what's wrong, I'm very concerned about him, I just want to hold him so bad because he's been isolating himself and crying, and cries himself to sleep, and he will wake up at like 1 in the morning and cry, my parents homeschooled him, because that's all he did in school was want to be alone and cry. Poor baby :( I have no clue how to make my baby brother happy again :( please help and thank you for answering
    8 answers · 4 hours ago
  • My mom wants me to take care of her kids an not have a life?

    Best answer: I kind of agree with these other answers, but there may be a better way to simplify this for you. The problem with answering this is we know almost nothing about your situation. For example, is your disability a "minor" thing like severe astigmatism, or are you almost legally blind"? We don't... show more
    Best answer: I kind of agree with these other answers, but there may be a better way to simplify this for you. The problem with answering this is we know almost nothing about your situation. For example, is your disability a "minor" thing like severe astigmatism, or are you almost legally blind"? We don't know if you live in a rural area where cars are almost mandatory or if it's a major metro area with lots of options to get around.

    The point of all this is I think you need to find an older, trustworthy adult who can serve as almost a "life coach" and help you sort this out. Older relatives are ideal, so think this through. What you want is someone to help you get out from under your mom, but develop your young adult coping skills at the same time. This includes setting realistic goals for yourself and also financial planning. If an older relative doesn't work, then think through your friends parents. Or a teacher or prof you got close to.

    You need this badly, because I'm sure you feel overwhelmed right now. This is understandable, but you owe it to yourself to start simplifying everything so you can escape. What you're trying to do is establish a healthy, balanced life, where you have fun with peers, you further your education, and you bring in some income . All of this will be easier than you think once the ball gets rolling. You just need some guidance on getting it started.
    8 answers · 4 hours ago
  • How many grandparents do you have that are still alive?

    Best answer: From dad side both of my grandparents alive ,but from mother side only my grandma alive as my grandpa passed away before i wad born due to motercycle accident
    Best answer: From dad side both of my grandparents alive ,but from mother side only my grandma alive as my grandpa passed away before i wad born due to motercycle accident
    23 answers · 3 days ago
  • Parents making me eat mashed potatoes.?

    Best answer: Your parents are being jerks. Everybody has a food they don't like. You not eating mashed potatoes in no way affects kids starving in China. Tell your mom to go watch " Mommie Dearest" and ask if she wants her kids to write a tell all like they did with Joan Crawford. Tell her, stop being a control... show more
    Best answer: Your parents are being jerks. Everybody has a food they don't like. You not eating mashed potatoes in no way affects kids starving in China. Tell your mom to go watch " Mommie Dearest" and ask if she wants her kids to write a tell all like they did with Joan Crawford. Tell her, stop being a control freak. Your parents obviously don't know how to pick their battles.
    If that was me I'd probably throw the mashed potatoes in her face. But don't do that.
    8 answers · 5 hours ago
  • Should I force my 17 year old to stop smoking weed?

    I m a mother to a 17 year old son who is overall a good kid , he does everything he s supposed to at home ( wash the dishes , take out the Garbage, etc. ) and also comes home with a 90 or above school average, and is always home by the time that I tell him to . There s only one problem , he smokes a lot of weed. I... show more
    I m a mother to a 17 year old son who is overall a good kid , he does everything he s supposed to at home ( wash the dishes , take out the Garbage, etc. ) and also comes home with a 90 or above school average, and is always home by the time that I tell him to . There s only one problem , he smokes a lot of weed. I know everyone always downplays weed as it is not as harmful as other drugs or even drinking and I ve done my share as a teenager but I worry about him out there in the streets smoking while it is still illegal in New York State ! We have a very close and open relationship and I have known that he has been smoking for a while now but I feel almost guilty if I condone it , so recently I changed my mind and said I need to stop worrying about putting our relationship in jeapordy and be a mother , and I told him he needs to stop and I would start to drug test him regularly. He didn t react so well and continues to try and convince me it s not bad because he doesn t do anything else wrong , it s hard to argue with but it still doesn t feel right, I feel as though he should at least slow down but I also feel like I can t go back on what I ve said now
    8 answers · 9 hours ago
  • How can I get my dad to be more supportive in my endeavors?

    I just feel as though my dad doesn't really care that I'm in college. Whenever I am studying for my classes, he'll tell me, "You study 24/7, you need to get a life, school isn't everything." I am a Biology major with intentions to become a PA. I take hard classes, so I have to spend a lot... show more
    I just feel as though my dad doesn't really care that I'm in college. Whenever I am studying for my classes, he'll tell me, "You study 24/7, you need to get a life, school isn't everything." I am a Biology major with intentions to become a PA. I take hard classes, so I have to spend a lot of time studying. I really want to get into this field. My dad upsets me when he puts me down like that. Even when I used to get really good grades in high school, he even asked me once, "Yeah you get good grades in school, but anyone can get good grades what specific talents do you have?" It upset me when he said that. He's hard to please. It seems like no matter what I do he's never happy. I've worked very hard in high school to get to this point and am working really hard now in college. I am the first person from my family to go off to university. I just wish my father was more involved and supportive in my endeavors. Thankfully, I have the full support of my mother. She always pushes me to do my best. I just wish my father was the same.
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • My Mom's brother is an alcoholic. Would it cure him if no one talks to him like my Mom thinks?

    Best answer: You could ignore him, and not let him out of your sight. Not to a huge extent, just enough to make sure he isn't drinking outside, with his friends.

    You could take away the alcohol from him, until he gets it under control.
    Best answer: You could ignore him, and not let him out of your sight. Not to a huge extent, just enough to make sure he isn't drinking outside, with his friends.

    You could take away the alcohol from him, until he gets it under control.
    4 answers · 2 days ago
  • Am I overreacting?

    So I graduated I 2015. My dad had broken his leg really bad and so my senior year kinda sucked. I was a cheerleader all through high school. So on my last home games football and basketball season, my parents got me flowers and they decorated my locker once for state. My senior year just really sucked. I missed... show more
    So I graduated I 2015. My dad had broken his leg really bad and so my senior year kinda sucked. I was a cheerleader all through high school. So on my last home games football and basketball season, my parents got me flowers and they decorated my locker once for state. My senior year just really sucked. I missed eating lunch with my friends because I had to go home to take care of my dad. My coach didn't think anything I did was good enough and my parents didn't do much to help make my senior year good. So my brother graduates this year. I'm angry because my mom is doing all this stuff for him that she didn't do for me. They've given him presents and they've made t shirts, yard signs. They haven't even had their first game yet and they've done everything they never did for me. She's so excited about going to all the games. They aren't pressuring him to get a job or decide what he wants to bewhen he gets older. And I'm frustrated because that's what they did to me. Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be mad?
    16 answers · 3 days ago
  • When will my dad stop showing up to my house unannounced?

    Best answer: you have to tell him

    change the locks
    Best answer: you have to tell him

    change the locks
    7 answers · 7 hours ago
  • How to encourage my brothers to help a bit house work ?

    They are age 14 and 11 they are lazy often spend their free time on computers and gaming not even socialise with people in real life or have any outside hobbies. I am 21 year old my self i am working part time job helping my parents pay off the mortage ,house work and looking after our two adult shih tzu family... show more
    They are age 14 and 11 they are lazy often spend their free time on computers and gaming not even socialise with people in real life or have any outside hobbies. I am 21 year old my self i am working part time job helping my parents pay off the mortage ,house work and looking after our two adult shih tzu family dogs . I told my parents they need to encourage boys ro help bit around home and maybe help with daily dog walking and bit of grooming the only response i get only women does house work ( i am girl ) and boys will be boys and once they reach 18yrs old they will be kick out . Any way i can encourage my younger brothers to help oit a bit ? I dont want them to rely on mother and me to clean everything and after them . My stepfather its same he does work but rarely helps with house work or looking after house dog as after work he usually spends his time on tv or smartphone for 5 hrs ... even during weekend he has free days he yet he wont help. My mother is working full time she cant help much with cooking , house work or house pets she helps when she is free but the sad thing is she believes women meant to do housework not men so bit stereo type .. I want to teach boys to be bit more responsible .. sorry for my bad english
    7 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Why is my brother so disgusting?

    I showed a video of those protesters getting run over by that vehicle in Charlotteville, and my brother thought that was funny I'm really ashamed to be related to my brother because he thinks violence is funny he thinks it's entertaining for people to be in pain what is wrong with this world why are people... show more
    I showed a video of those protesters getting run over by that vehicle in Charlotteville, and my brother thought that was funny I'm really ashamed to be related to my brother because he thinks violence is funny he thinks it's entertaining for people to be in pain what is wrong with this world why are people becoming so sick should I report my brother?
    7 answers · 8 hours ago