• What should I do about my daughter?

    My daughter is 19 years old. She’s a freshman in community college, which I pay for. I pay her car insurance ($2,000/yr), car repairs (thousands of dollars over two years), and she lives here rent free. I also buy all her food and toiletries. She’s in school about 9 hours a week over three days. I don’t think she... show more
    My daughter is 19 years old. She’s a freshman in community college, which I pay for. I pay her car insurance ($2,000/yr), car repairs (thousands of dollars over two years), and she lives here rent free. I also buy all her food and toiletries. She’s in school about 9 hours a week over three days. I don’t think she has much homework. She has a job where she works 2-3 days a week for about 10-12 hours on average for the week. She only pays for her gas and for clothes. Should I continue doing this? She always says she’s so busy but she spends more time with her boyfriend than she does at school or work and sometimes getting her to do chores around the house becomes a chore for me.
    41 answers · 2 days ago
  • How far can parents take the 'my house, my rules' argument?

    For circumstances that affect the parents, it makes sense and I agree with it, e.g. Having people over. But, can they really apply this argument to things that have no effect on them whatsoever, e.g. How much time I spend doing a certain activity?
    For circumstances that affect the parents, it makes sense and I agree with it, e.g. Having people over. But, can they really apply this argument to things that have no effect on them whatsoever, e.g. How much time I spend doing a certain activity?
    40 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it selfish to move out of state?

    Best answer: Not really your parents made their decisions about their lives........but, remember to finish high school and hopeful some college etc............than start planning for your future........start a savings, make a good budget up and stick to it, find a place you can actually afford........do lots of... show more
    Best answer: Not really your parents made their decisions about their lives........but, remember to finish high school and hopeful some college etc............than start planning for your future........start a savings, make a good budget up and stick to it, find a place you can actually afford........do lots of research.....set up RESUMES that will obtain that wonderful job and nice enough life style or traveling you hope to accomplish.......it takes excellent work ethics, priorities............best of wishes to your future plans..........this is the word PLANNING.
    11 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Should I tell my dad about my moms drinking problem ?

    After the passing of my grandmother, my moms drinking had gotton out of control. She has depression and anxiety. She goes to a doctor every six months for her refills for something for depression and xanax. I haven't been home lately at night and didn't know that she had a problem. This past 2 weeks;... show more
    After the passing of my grandmother, my moms drinking had gotton out of control. She has depression and anxiety. She goes to a doctor every six months for her refills for something for depression and xanax. I haven't been home lately at night and didn't know that she had a problem. This past 2 weeks; she's been a mess. I find her Xanax on the floor, I have to help her to bed, get her water, and basically babysit her. I took her xanax away one night. She takes her recommended dose for the day at night (she doesn't take her xanax during the day). Drinking wise, she drinks 5 beers I think. 3 mg of xanax and 5 beers is not okay!! Last night, I had to carry my mother down the stairs (on my butt, with her sitting on top of me) because she was banging into everything. And she was just laughing like it was fun. I told my dad about the xanax being on the ground and that I think she might be taking them in her sleep and my dad told my mom that I said that. And she took it all offensively, like why would I do that. I'm scared one morning, I'm going to wake up and she's going to accidently overdose. My parents sleep in separate beds and I don't want to create conflict. My dad works early in the morning so he is sleeping when she gets like this. I'm 18 years old and in college right now. I don't want to be kicked out over this because my mom is going to be angry for "telling on her". How do I explain this to my dad?
    7 answers · 17 hours ago
  • Does this show that I'm too selfish?

    Best answer: That is the total opposite of selfish, good job! Selfish is staying at home, eating free, living free, not giving your parents their deserved peace, and making them feel like they didn't raise you right because you can't fly on your own. Explore the world, start your life, it's expected.
    Best answer: That is the total opposite of selfish, good job! Selfish is staying at home, eating free, living free, not giving your parents their deserved peace, and making them feel like they didn't raise you right because you can't fly on your own. Explore the world, start your life, it's expected.
    4 answers · 7 hours ago
  • Is it normal for 4th graders to have a lot of drama socially?

    I have a 9 year old daughter and she tells me complicated stories about friendships. There seems to be a lot of crying, fighting and making up, passing notes, and other drama. As a parent, I didn't expect this until her tween and teen years starting in 6th and 7th grades. Her older cousins and siblings... show more
    I have a 9 year old daughter and she tells me complicated stories about friendships. There seems to be a lot of crying, fighting and making up, passing notes, and other drama. As a parent, I didn't expect this until her tween and teen years starting in 6th and 7th grades. Her older cousins and siblings didn't go through that at her age so I haven't experienced this. For myself, as a child there wasn't that much conflict at this age. Times have changed, and I've read about dealing with issues like this. They're usually about older girls with friendship problems like these though. She knows that I am always here to listen and advice is offered. I choose not to get involved but make sure that it does not escalate to bullying and harassment.
    4 answers · 9 hours ago
  • Is what my mother does, wrong?

    Best answer: A husband and wife are LEGALLY equal partners. Money that is earned by either of them is the JOINT responsibility of BOTH PARTNERS. If your HOUSEHOLD and RETIREMENT NEEDS are being met and there is some extra money lying around...then providing some money to others is OK. If your financial picture is NOT... show more
    Best answer: A husband and wife are LEGALLY equal partners. Money that is earned by either of them is the JOINT responsibility of BOTH PARTNERS. If your HOUSEHOLD and RETIREMENT NEEDS are being met and there is some extra money lying around...then providing some money to others is OK.

    If your financial picture is NOT GOOD...then your mother is GOOD to POINT OUT THAT MONEY GOING TO THE RELATIVES is NOT acceptable.

    Clearly you need to sit down with BOTH your mother and father and have a NON CONFRONTATIONAL discussion about the family finances.
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • Should I hate my father for lying to me?

    Should I hate my father for lying to me?

    My dumbass dad told me that he has Asian on his side of the family. I don't believe him. This is me btw.
    My dumbass dad told me that he has Asian on his side of the family. I don't believe him. This is me btw.
    11 answers · 13 hours ago
  • What do I when I hear my parents have sex?

    So I’ve talked to them about because they can hear me crying, and they say it’s completely normal. Yeah, I think so too but am I the only one who finds it rude?! (Btw, my room is close to theirs and they still close their door) Sometimes I get angry, too. I think it’s even worse when they do it in the middle of the... show more
    So I’ve talked to them about because they can hear me crying, and they say it’s completely normal. Yeah, I think so too but am I the only one who finds it rude?! (Btw, my room is close to theirs and they still close their door) Sometimes I get angry, too. I think it’s even worse when they do it in the middle of the day. LIKE IM STILL ALIVE!
    24 answers · 4 days ago
  • I can hear my parent having sex?

    They’re so bloody noisy it’s doing my head in , the bed is so loud , my bedrooms under theirs
    They’re so bloody noisy it’s doing my head in , the bed is so loud , my bedrooms under theirs
    55 answers · 5 days ago
  • Am I being too hard on my 12 yr old daughter?

    Best answer: IF THIS IS TO LONG THEN JUST READ THE LAST PARAGRAPH-I promise that it will work- To me, it sounds like SHE'S the bully...I can not stand disrespectful behavior, I find it to be extremely harmful to an environment, especially a household, but I would maybe tone down on the strict timing and other maybe overly... show more
    Best answer: IF THIS IS TO LONG THEN JUST READ THE LAST PARAGRAPH-I promise that it will work-
    To me, it sounds like SHE'S the bully...I can not stand disrespectful behavior, I find it to be extremely harmful to an environment, especially a household, but I would maybe tone down on the strict timing and other maybe overly strict rules, she is a child and needs to be allowed to live like one.

    I don't know anyone who actually ENJOYS getting up early, but I have a feeling that you either have talked to her the same way she talks to you now, or that you simply ignore it to continue trying to get your point across; either way, she clearly has not been disciplined well, I am only 21 years old but I have never and would never tell my mom to "go to hell" because language like that was never spoken in my house, and I respect how hard she has worked for me to be who I am. I was also given spankings (which I am aware is seen as child abuse now days) but let me tell ya nothing will set someone straight like a spanking....anyway, there is literally nothing that you can say that will change her behavior-that had to have been done the first 10 years of her life- she is now approaching her teen years and will only get worse. All you can do now is show her what being a lady and having a loving relationship with family is like.

    My advice? Spend time with her. QUALITY time. Buy some chick flicks, snacks, games, etc. Laugh and get to know and love one another. This time in her life is so valuable and should be a time in which you guys could become very close for the rest of your years together. As I previously mentioned, I am 21 and have had my fair share of mother-daughter issues with my mom, but take it from me, the time and love that she gave me was the best thing that could've happened to my relationship with her. Tell her daily how much she means to you, as doing so will make a world of difference to her, whether she makes it seem like it does or not.
    87 answers · 6 days ago
  • My sister keeps asking me to pick HER kids up from school just because I am out of work for the moment. She is getting on my nerves. I -?

    I don't work because I recently had a breakdown and I am on sick leave to recover. My sister keeps asking me to pick her kids up because I am closer to the school than she is. I don't mind now and then, but she is asking every day. I have to put my plans on hold because I have to pick the kids up. Then she... show more
    I don't work because I recently had a breakdown and I am on sick leave to recover. My sister keeps asking me to pick her kids up because I am closer to the school than she is. I don't mind now and then, but she is asking every day. I have to put my plans on hold because I have to pick the kids up. Then she texts a few hours later and asks if I can pick the older kids up for her (they finish later). So, again, I have to put my plans on hold. Yesterday, she didn't arrive when she said she would and I had to babysit for and hour. I rang my mum to say this is getting on my nerves and she shouted at me saying, 'your sister needs help. You do nothing all day anyway. I couldn't be so cold. You shouldn't take it out on the kids.' And she put the phone down on me. What should I do because this is getting on my nerves. Oh, and I have been saving for a new car and my sister is hounding me to get one. I know when I get one she is going to ask me to drive her kids home every day of the week.
    8 answers · 3 hours ago
  • Why is suicide due to bullying a lot more common these days?

    A few decades ago, it was rare to hear about children dying due to bullies. There were no laws against it, and not very many kids considered self-harm. There were always bullies, physical fights, and verbal threats. Bullying became one of the biggest factors to suicide. Technology plays a major role in this, but... show more
    A few decades ago, it was rare to hear about children dying due to bullies. There were no laws against it, and not very many kids considered self-harm. There were always bullies, physical fights, and verbal threats. Bullying became one of the biggest factors to suicide. Technology plays a major role in this, but kids have been writing horrible things about people and verbally threatening others as long as I can recall. We had a notebook in the class where the kids would write cruel remarks about other kids. The schoolyard bullies physically fought others and even followed someone home once. But nobody at our middle school ever committed suicide. Why is it increasingly common?
    8 answers · 7 hours ago
  • How can I get my dad to buy me my own place?

    I’m graduating in 2018 and my dad bought my brother a condo when he graduated last year but my dad said he won’t be buying me one since my mother already bought me the car I wanted a while back. My dad said it won’t be fair to my younger brother and that he’s going to want a car and a condo too when he graduates.... show more
    I’m graduating in 2018 and my dad bought my brother a condo when he graduated last year but my dad said he won’t be buying me one since my mother already bought me the car I wanted a while back. My dad said it won’t be fair to my younger brother and that he’s going to want a car and a condo too when he graduates. That’s not my fault and I want a place of my own and my dad needs to buy me one.
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • First Christmas after death of older sister. Should I force my family to celebrate it or forget it this year?

    I am a 37yo man and my older sister died unexpectedly in April. Christmas is coming up and I want the family to celebrate it like always with presents and everything. My oldest sister isn’t sure we should celebrate it at all this year. My mom told me that I need to think about how hard this is for my oldest sister... show more
    I am a 37yo man and my older sister died unexpectedly in April. Christmas is coming up and I want the family to celebrate it like always with presents and everything. My oldest sister isn’t sure we should celebrate it at all this year. My mom told me that I need to think about how hard this is for my oldest sister like my feelings don’t matter because I’m so much younger than both sisters. I don’t know what to do. Should I respect my family and forget Christmas this year? I was looking forward to sending out my Christmas present list to my family members and to being able to buy them presents as well. Is this the wrong year to celebrate Christmas? Am I being as selfish as they are making me feel? Do I have the right to celebrate with my family like I want to? I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyone else to celebrate Christmas with.
    8 answers · 9 hours ago
  • I'm a 21 year old girl and feel suicidal?

    My father has always been abusive, but it's getting worse. He's always cursing me out, telling me I'm not loved, cursing my mom out who doesn't have any money because she was a housewife. I have no money, no job, no transportation. I was an A student but crashed my car and ever since then I've... show more
    My father has always been abusive, but it's getting worse. He's always cursing me out, telling me I'm not loved, cursing my mom out who doesn't have any money because she was a housewife. I have no money, no job, no transportation. I was an A student but crashed my car and ever since then I've had a hell life. I'm literally thinking that there no way out of here. My last job, my dad took all of my money and spent it and threatened to let go of his job if I didn't give him the checks. I literally feel sick to my stomach thinking about all of this. He said I deserve to die and I shouldn't have been born that way he could be a bachelor again. He said he wasted his life raising kids and literally my siblings and I are so kind to him. I don't know why he hates us. I'm feeling so broken. Please help me. I see nowhere out. I want to get out of here and take my loving mom who is a heart patient and my 2 siblings.
    15 answers · 4 days ago
  • Are my parents too cheap for the amount we are making?

    Please read all this... Im 14. My parents make around 150,000 a year AND IM AN ONLY CHILD. I think I'm just brainwashed by my friends family's, one of my friends makes like 80,000 a year with 2 kids. And I know for a fact their not in debt. Their just willing to spend so much money on my friend and his... show more
    Please read all this... Im 14. My parents make around 150,000 a year AND IM AN ONLY CHILD. I think I'm just brainwashed by my friends family's, one of my friends makes like 80,000 a year with 2 kids. And I know for a fact their not in debt. Their just willing to spend so much money on my friend and his sister, like my friend has a whole freaking gaming PC setup, 2 gopros, 2 bikes, and like 5 mac computers. And he gets his own phone plan, and expensive speaker system. My ex-friend, has even more. They make around maybe 100,000 A gaming PC, 10 other PC's ( he is a tech nerd ),expensive Lenovo flex 3, good headphones, ps3, xbox, wii. games, TV for his room, surround sound system, 128 gb iphone with phone plan, tons of small stuff like 3ds's and stuff, and alot of other stuff, he doesn't even act spoiled, I knew him for years and he never did. Back in like 2nd or 3rd grade, his parents would buy him game cards and stuff like that whenever he wanted AND I WOULD HAVE TO PAY FOR THEM MYSELF WITH THE CRAP ALLOWENCE I GOT. and his older sister is in a university, HOW ARE THEY ABLE TO AFFORD ALL THIS. the family is indian. does this have to do with anything? also he has like 4 pairs of nike shoes and doesn't even do a sport, I do cross country AND track, and my mom says that's the only reason why shes getting me nike shoes. But, ugh. I only have a bad computer, a bad laptop from my uncle, a 16 gb iphone 6 with NO phone plan, old 3ds, its just not fair :(
    23 answers · 4 days ago
  • MY Dad is bad to my Mom. My Mom says I should stand up to him for her but I feel weird lecturing my Dad. Should I fight him?

    Best answer: "My Mom says I should stand up to him for her"

    Your mom is just as abusive as your dad, just emotional instead of physical.
    Best answer: "My Mom says I should stand up to him for her"

    Your mom is just as abusive as your dad, just emotional instead of physical.
    8 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Am I wrong for banning cigarettes on my property?

    Best answer: No, you're not wrong.

    But just try to explain to her about second hand smoke and about how you don't like the smell of smoke.

    And perhaps buy her an ashtray to her butts in when she's outside smoking.
    Best answer: No, you're not wrong.

    But just try to explain to her about second hand smoke and about how you don't like the smell of smoke.

    And perhaps buy her an ashtray to her butts in when she's outside smoking.
    58 answers · 6 days ago
  • My step dad has taken my gaming equipment etc and said they are history, I have proof, what can I do, any option is good?

    Best answer: I guess you could wait until you are 18 and then move out.
    Best answer: I guess you could wait until you are 18 and then move out.
    8 answers · 20 hours ago