do your kids want to learn?

my 10 yr old really has no desire to learn and will put only the minimum amount of effort into his school work. he used to get very upset with himself if he got a bad grade but now, he doesn't seem to care. or if he does, he's not telling.he's really quite smart and very capable. any suggestions on how to get him to enjoy school and want to do his best?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I love learning so much. I could sit and learn all day long about anything at all-- the whole world is just... fascinating. Even at fourteen I'm as fascinated with the things around me as when I was five.

    My problem is, I love to learn, but I hate worksheets. That's not learning, and that's what your 10 year old really hates. Children are naturally inquisitive, and school essentially takes that away. Maybe traditional schooling isn't for him, because it's obviously not motivating him enough. If his grades start dropping dramatically, consider an alternate school or even homeschooling. It sounds really dramatic, I know, but I read so often about children who do horribly in traditional schools but go on to have incredible grades in schools that keep them interested and cater to their type of learning. Smart, smart children that the education system just doesn't accomadate for.

    There also might be something socially that's bothering him. A lot of kids are really good at keeping to themselves when there's a lot hacking at them on the inside.

    So anyway, find out the source of the problem. Maybe he's being bullied at school or online, or maybe he's bored with the material at school, or maybe he's just figured out that school is...kinda lame. So have a nice open talk (non-accusatory) with your child and you might find a good answer. Best of luck!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    First, explain to him the importance of school. He needs to know that school is very important, and grades are as well. I used to be that way, too. Every-time I received a bad report card, i never even cared whether i passed or not, but I realized that i would be lost without an education. I would tell him to study more, and he should start asking for tutoring, that way he can get help with whatever he's failing. Everyone doesn't like school, not even me, but whatever you want to do in your future, it start's right now with your education, and i believe your son has the potential and he will succeed, all he has to do is try. So, here's what I suggest: first, see if tutoring is offered at his school so he can get help with some subjects, and have him bring all of his work that he does in class to you, especially if he got an F, and talk to his teacher to see what she can do to make sure he stays on top. Sit down with him and talk to him and just tell him that bringing home bad grades isn't good and you want him to believe he can do anything, and tell him if he just try it, he can do whatever he puts his mind to. And if he isn't enjoying school, just tell him to think about concentrating and focusing on school, and don't let anyone frustrate him.

  • April
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    All kids want to learn. I would say that it's completely unnatural for a child to NOT want to learn. There is an underlying cause to your son's lack of desire to learn. He may be bored with school. He may be having issues with other students. He may have an undiagnosed visual disability or auditory disability - both can highly interfere with a child's ability to succeed in a typical school room setting. When kids stop wanting to learn, it's a big red flag that there's a problem. You may want to do some research online for "visual learning disabilities". Even if he has 20/20 vision, he can still have severe learning disabilities related to his vision, that make it difficult to read and comprehend or even difficult or impossible to properly copy from the board or take notes when a teacher is talking.

    By the way, I homeschool my son. He has visual learning disabilities himself and he's extremely bright. I knew that if I sent him to a classroom, he would be ruined.

  • 4 years ago

    Geocentrism was once a conception that was once authorised improbable because of the rising of a extra rational conception.. . The heliocentric one. I'm atheist and I do not see why the geocentric conception should not be studied. You' ignorant in some way that you just could not see how beside the point being atheist is to what you've got simply mentioned. Not liking the geocentric conception to an volume wherein one thinks it is "dull" has NOTHING to do with being an atheist. And kudos for the pun "..How on EARTH are you able to make a choice approximately what..." LOL

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  • 1 decade ago

    talk to him about why he doesn't want to do his work. Is it to hard? Is he bored with it? Find some things he is really interested in- what career does he want, hobbies he wants to get into- take him to the library and help him search for information about it, see if there are any clubs in the area he would enjoy that has to do with an interest. If he finds something he enjoys and sees the value in learning about it, it will transfer over to school work.

  • 1 decade ago

    my kids only do well in subjects they really like.does he have a problem with the teacher?last yr my daughters teacher was abitch and my kid was soooo scared she was gonna get yelled at she could barely concentrate,this yr nice one and all is well.my son was a great student until he got older,then all of a sudden it wasnt cool to be a brain and his grades suffered,after a good yelling at he got a better.we encourage a good effort more than an A and it seems to work,also homework comes before everything,no tv,no computer,no friends til we see homework done correctly,this takes effort on our part to make them sit and do it, and us checking it.

  • 1 decade ago

    Incentives/ positive reinforcement may work for good grades. If you know what interests him buy or borrow books and magazines about the topics and talk with him about his findings. Chat to his teacher early in the year to ask for suggestions to help him achieve his best. All the best.

  • darlin
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I'd talk to his teachers, it can be a harsh teacher or personality conflict, or an issue in school. 4th and 5th grade is tough and you face the puberty stuff also very soon. Keep the communication open with him.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I love to learn. I think you should talk him about it and maybe hes just bored with school, this often happens with children, I know many of them or sometimes they just need a little push in the right direction

  • 1 decade ago

    i think taht he wants to do some thing else rather than go to school and get good grades and wait 19 years to get a fun life

    so i think u should reward him every time he gets a hundred

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