I know how it is, because I had the same feeling in the old days. As you mentioned, if this is rooted deeply for so long, you need to change your mindset, and this can't be done just by reading books on developing a more outgoing personality. The best and fastest way is to find a person who knows exactly what they are doing and who you trust to help you through coaching or mentoring. Such a person can help you to identify the root of the problem and support you to transform it effectively.
Because the approaches and techniques I found on my path before didn't work strong enough for emotional transformations, I created a technique myself (together with my wife). It was initially called the Release Coaching Method, and lately we tailored it for business coaching and called it the Emotional Management Method. On the website http://emotionalmanagementmethod.com/ you can view a free webinar about how stress impacts your life. And you can listen also to a live radio interview during which I help a guest to get rid of his phobia for spiders live on the radio with this technique in just 20 minutes.
If you'd like to learn more about the approach, our book will give you more insights about how the technique works, and how we can overcome any obstacles we create for ourselves: http://www.amazon.com/Reduce-Stress-Emotional-Management-Method/dp/9081990500
To view an introduction webinar go here: http://emotionalmanagementmethod.com/
If you feel it's a match, just book a session with one of the coaches through the website.
Today, standing often on a stage and giving training for many thousands of people each year without any stress, I can testify from my own experience that you can get rid of any shyness if you take action to do something about it. And keep going until you get there.
· 7 years ago