He is as scared as you are. He knows as much about DATING and ASKING a girl out, as you do asking a boy out.
Someone has to step up. If you don't, some other girl Might.
Never ASK someone for a Date.
Asking puts a person on the defense of HAVING TO MAKE a decision and
giving you an answer.
Most people say NO, because No is SAFER for them. Later on THEY MIGHT
regret they said No and feel like they blew their chance with you.
If you INVITE someone to join you somewhere, they have time to think about it without pressure and can make a decision without giving you an
To get a date without asking: INVITATIONS and ASKING for a Date are the same thing, but an invitation is easier to offer,
rather than ask for a date.
Writing a note and handing it to him or having someone hand it to him, will be okay.
Most invitations are in WRITTEN FORM. (add ph# so now He has it)
Tell him where you will be on a certain day and at a certain time.
Let him know he is welcome to join you if he has time.
EXAMPLE: "Hi. I'm going to be at the park by the pond on Saturday at 2:30pm. You're welcome to join me if you have time. I will probably be bored, just feeding the ducks".
EXAMPLE: "I'm going for ice cream after school / work at (location), you can join me if you're not busy. My treat."
YOU WON'T HAVE TO FEEL EMBARRASSED if He declines.
It was just an invitation, NO BIG DEAL.
HOW TO BE WITH SOMEONE; ONE on ONE
Make wager (bet) with the person you want to spend time with.
Lose that bet to them INTENTIONALLY.
The wager should be something that puts you together alone and
away from everyone you know.
Make the wager something you can afford and non threatening
or too suggestive.
(an ice cream cone, a milkshake, a coffee, even washing a car)
EXAMPLE: "I'll bet you an ICE CREAM SUNDAE, I can say
the alphabet backwards faster than you."
Then LOSE the bet and take him for an ice cream sundae.
(enjoy your Date)
If it scares you to take these steps, keep in mind YOU'RE SCARED ANYWAY.
Also if some other girl gets his attention, you'll wish you had done SOMETHING.
CONFIDENCE is not about Succeeding. It's about NOT BEING AFRAID,
to Step Up, whether you get Accepted or Rejected.
After you get Accepted or Rejected, YOU WILL "Quit"
Torturing yourself with Worry, Curiosity and Desire.
But Don't Live in FEAR of the person you Desire.
Get Accepted or Rejected, but settle this FOR YOU.