Just know that you aren't the only 30-year-old struggling with problems. Most of us weren't really educated to be independent, resilient and smart for that matter, so partly is not your fault. I have to say though that you are still responsible for what's happening and ultimately only you can make the change. There are three things I always recommend people doing to deal with procrastination, they are: 1) meditation, 2) exercise, 3) reading materials that discuss procrastination and a positive lifestyle. It may not sound like much and in fact it may not be a solution to you but trust me, it's going to help. If it doesn't it means you didn't want enough for the change to happen and in this case all there is to do is simply live your life as it is now. It's not necessarily something bad you know, if you don't feel like being successful you have all the right not to be and you can still be happy. In the end, it just comes down to what you want and not what you think you have to want.