Cary asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 2 months ago

Is it appropriate to kick out my roommate?

I live in a house with three people including myself. We are all 25 years old. My one roommate is great, cleans up after herself etc. The other one... well. She’s VERYS messy. Luckily not letting it spread to the rest of the house but her room is always such a disaster (doesn’t effect me) but it leaves a strange smell wafting into the rest of the home. She also doesn’t help around the house. Never cleaned the bathroom, kitchen or vacuuming etc the shared spaces. She thinks since she doesn’t make a mess with items she doesn’t need to contribute to deeper cleaning.... 

but the real problem is that she is up from any time during the day until and anywhere from 1am, to 4am on FaceTime EXTREMELY loud talking to someone she is interested in every night. Both me and my other roommate have early days and she works nights serving. Therefor, she comes home late and hops on to FaceTime and wakes us all up.

 We’ve both spoken to her about this on at least 10 occasions asking her to quiet down or stop calling so late and she apologizes but never stops. I’m not sure what to do at this point. Is this a silly reason to ask her to leave and find a new roommate? Am I being too up tight in this situation? Let me know if you have any advice! (Ps she isn’t on a lease and I am the holder of the house)

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Document everything in case she files a lawsuit. Warnings you gave her and the inconvenencce in relation to different scehdules and lack of consideration on her part. Thin the untidy is the least of your worrries, since money and rent is the main issue if she is kicked out, she may go to small claims court. be wise.

    The real or relevant question is "What are the consequences" going forward with it.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    I used to live in a house with 3 other guys too.   sometimes they left the dirty dishes in the sink for days.    So I just moved the dishes and put in on top of the side of the sink.   

    When you live in a house, you have to tolerate your roommates behaviors.  Or you can always rent a single room apt.  

    And one more thing, how the hell will you kick her out?   you are not the landlord.   Only the owner of the house or the landlord can kick the renter.   And the main reason of most landlord kicked out the renters is because they dont pay the rent.  

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  • Raja
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    You say that you are the holder of the house ,does that means you are the house owner?.She is not on a lease .That means she is only a lodger .Under such circumstances you can always ask her to leave.If you are not the owner of the house ,then complain to the Land Lord and ask him /her to eject her. The question of kicking out will not arise.

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  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    The three of you need to draw up house rules 

    And all stick to them

    If she deals with the smell....

    Then, her room, her mess, her problem

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    I don’t know , I just don’t know 

    • Dr. Stephanie
      Lv 7
      2 months agoReport

      If you didn't know, why did you bother to answer her?

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  • 2 months ago

    You probably won't be able to retroactively add household chores at this stage.  However, you must observe your state's renter eviction procedure.  Since she isn't directly being threatening or violent, you'll probably have a longer wait for an eviction notice to run its course.  For example, in Oregon, that would be 30 days for no cause, 72 hours for non-payment, and 24 hours for felonious actitivies; check with a landlord law attorney if needed to be sure.

    You might begin preparing for the next tenant.  Prepare a renter's agreement which specifies that each renter must observe designated quiet hours, do a fair share of common area chores, no smoking/drugs/animals/vehicle overhaul/etc. as appropriate.  Add enforcement provisions (which can be waived by your discretion if desirable) of say $100 fine per minute of disruptively loud activities between 10 p.m. and 6 a.m. (or whatever), $25 per kitchen item left dirty or not put away, etc., as is important to you.  Require anyone moving in to sign the agreement.  Probably your current roommates would be good with signing it too, but you will have little leverage for them to agree.  (If a renter declines, explain that is what new renters must sign and regard this as a compelling guideline for them and a request for assistance in enforcing/reporting broken rules for new tenants.)

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  • 2 months ago

    You don't say who owns the house.would suggest that the house owner would not like someone living in their premises who treats it like a $hithouse, and they would have the right ton say either 'improve' or 'move on.'

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  • Kelly
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Since it's her established residency, you would have to have her evicted.  If you're renting, your landlord would need to do it.

    If you kick her out, in many areas she's also no longer responsible for her portion of the lease.

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  • 2 months ago

    So you are in charge if your name's on the lease. Gang up on her with the other room-mate and make a united stand against her. Tell her that her room smells, she doesn't make any concessions to you two with her late night loud phonecalls. Suggest she should move to other accommodation where she can shout to her hearts content and stink that place out instead. Do it together.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Try sitting down and talking to her about it and ask nicely if she can contribute to cleaning up.  If she won’t agree then don’t just kick her out straight away  as it’s not humane. If she don’t change then you can give her two months to find somewhere. 

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