How to deal with a coworker who cannot stand any conversation?

We all start work at 8am and it is now approx 11am (UK). We have not said one word so far and we work in the office like this 95% of the time.

Another coworker asked another coworker how her daughter was (she’d been very unwell) and this 66 year old rolled her eyes and shook her head. We don’t think it’s right to work like this as it creates anxiety. We get ‘scared’ to say two words at times. She keeps going in to complain to our boss over things that don’t even need complaining about, as the boss never comes back correcting us in any way. Any suggestions please? We just don’t know what is the matter with this woman.

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    There's nothing wrong with this person.  They're doing what's known as doing their job. Some coworkers are chatty and some aren't.  

    Some people prefer to not discuss their personal lives with coworkers.  This isn't good nor bad- it's a personal choice.

    • a1 month agoReport

      So true. The less my colleagues know about my private  life the better.

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  • F
    Lv 6
    1 month ago

    Have you considered that they might find your conversation re your children , soaps , celebs ,  Strictly, etc etc really boring?

    Many people who consider themselves great conversationalists are in fact tedious bores.

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  • ron h
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Say "good morning" and then get to work.  I wonder if she's complaining that you don't seem to do much work and that you pester her a lot.  

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  • 1 month ago

    One advice, if you keep getting affected by each and every thing, you will get frustrated with life very soon. Just be nice to that coworker, ask how they are doing, how their family is. 

    That should be from your side, just don't expect anything to come from their side. When expectations come disappointment will not be far away.

     In all my corporate learnt one thing from experience. Be nice to everyone without expecting anything and people will notice (even if they don't notice, we were already not expecting anything so it doesn't matter anyway) 

    If you follow this rule you will start to become happier each day.

    • gaurav, you have no right to try and control people

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  • 1 month ago

    Stop trying to engage her. You are feeling anxiety for no good reason here--she doesn't want to talk, so don't talk to her unless you have to. She may have problems she can't disclose at work--or she may be suffering from some illness, but if you've tried to talk and she won't, then stop trying. The boss is probably aware of the issue. Not everyone needs to have conversation all the time. Focus on your work, and talk to other people. 

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Ignore them and focus on your actual work.

  • 1 month ago

    Your personal life is irrelevant, and so is hers. Other than saying "good morning" on arrival, routine politeness when circumstances warrant, there is NO need for conversation with another employee. Hunker down & tend to business. You're there to do your work, not socialize.

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  • Amy
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Do your job. Only talk to this person as needed for the work you are each doing.

    Chitchat with your other coworker in the break room where you aren't bothering the employee who is trying to work.

    If silence makes you anxious, then listen to music through headphones.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Maybe she does not not like chatty bitches. Some people never shut up and others can't work. Perhaps that is her point of view.

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  • 1 month ago

    She’s there to perform her job and nothing more. Leave her alone, as it’s hard enough for her to deal with typical office banter she can’t avoid. Obviously her complaints fall on deaf ears with the boss bc they’re frivolous 

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    She might be jealous she can't converse in the same way as the rest of you can?

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