should i request divorce from my muslim husband,if he dont allow ohter family members eat pork?

should i request divorce?i am sick of that ohter my family members are not allowed eat pork and they are not muslims.should i tell him stop didcating what meat ohter family or offer him pick divorce?

Update:

i am okay if he dont eat pork and understand his religion..but that does meant he has right to bann us eating pork meat..

Update 2:

children are from previous marriage and not muslims..

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  • 4 weeks ago

    Which other family members are you talking about? If you mean your parents, your siblings, your nieces and nephews then he certainly has no right to tell them what they may or may not eat in their own homes.

    But in his home according to Islam he is the boss, not you, and he has the right to ban pork in his home. Read what the Quran says on the matter:

    Surah An-Nisa' (4:34)

    "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them, but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great."

    Note that the Quran gives him the right to beat you if you persist in disobedience.

    If you have children with him then according to Islam they ARE Muslim. And if they don't want to follow Islam when they reach puberty they have committed apostasy, and according to Sharia law they should be executed. So they are all subject to the rule not to eat pork whether they are in his house or not.

    If you want to divorce him then it depends on whether he wants to accept your divorce or not. He has the right to divorce you any time you want by speaking the triple talaq (saying "I divorce thee" three times). But if he doesn't want to divorce you then you must apply to a sharia court for a khul divorce, which will only be granted if the grounds are valid.

    Now you might think that you can divorce him in a civil court. But unless the divorce is allowed by your local sharia court he won't recognise it. He will come to your house whenever he wants, have sex with you whenever he wants, and require your obedience. And you don't dare re-marry or get a new partner because he will consider it adultery. However he can get a new partner because Islam allows a Muslim man to have up to four wives at a time.

    Read through this website to see all that I have stated confirmed:

    https://islamqa.info/en

    Non-Muslim women should really read through this website BEFORE they get married to see what they could be getting themselves into.

  • Archer
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    So you didn't know anything before you married him and thought that he would be open to that of others.

  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    I think your real issue is that your husband is controlling. If this was only an issue with your family eating pork, you would have found a way to work it out. I can understand him not wanting pork in his home. He has every right to ask your family not to bring pork into his house. But outside of his home, he has no right to expect others to follow his religious diet, and that includes you. He has the right to control his own diet, and what foods are allowed in his house, but if he can’t be around someone who eats pork in their own house, he should have married a Muslim woman from a conservative Muslim family. I think the real problem is that he thinks he has the right to tell other people how to live their lives. A lot of super religious people think they’re saving people from themselves by telling them to follow their rules, but the rest of us just see it as controlling and rude (which it is). I suggest you talk to him and tell him that you respect his beliefs, but your family have their own beliefs and he must respect that. If he can’t loosen up a little, get some marriage counseling. If he refuses to accept that he is not in charge of you and your family, then divorce may be the only option. Nobody wants a controlling husband. 

  • Amina
    Lv 4
    4 weeks ago

    Yes you should confront him because if he wanted a wife who didn't eat pork he should've married a Muslim woman.

    I'm Muslim myself and it is not my place to tell others what they should eat because of my personal belief.

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  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    Something tells me theres more going on than just pork. If he is demanding in other areas of your life and acts like a dictator, then you should divorce. But if its only about pork, then no. Try to work out your problems like civilized human beings.

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