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Is it always better to forgive someone?

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  • 1 month ago
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    No.  I could not forgive a rapist.  There are many things that do not warrant a forgiveness.

  • 1 month ago

    It’s not about forgiveness.. 

    It’s about letting go of the poison that eats your own soul. 

  • 1 month ago

    Yes.  You forgive someone for YOUR sake, not theirs

  • 1 month ago

    Who hasn't been hurt by the actions or words of another? Perhaps a parent constantly criticized you growing up, a colleague sabotaged a project or your partner had an affair. Or maybe you've had a traumatic experience, such as being physically or emotionally abused by someone close to you.

    These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness — even vengeance.But if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude, and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.What is forgiveness?Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy, and compassion for the one who hurt you.Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.What are the benefits of forgiving someone?Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:• Healthier relationships• Improved mental health• Less anxiety, stress, and hostility• Lower blood pressure• Fewer symptoms of depression• A stronger immune system• Improved heart health• Improved self-esteemWhy is it so easy to hold a grudge?Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness, and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance, and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.Some people are naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you're a grudge holder, almost anyone can learn to be more forgiving.What are the effects of holding a grudge?If you're unforgiving, you might:• Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience• Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present• Become depressed or anxious• Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefs• Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with othersHow do I reach a state of forgiveness?Forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change. To move from suffering to forgiveness, you might:• Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your life• Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what• Consider joining a support group or seeing a counselor• Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect your behavior, and work to release them• Choose to forgive the person who's offended you• Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life.As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.What happens if I can't forgive someone?Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who's hurt you doesn't admit wrong. If you find yourself stuck:• Practice empathy. Try seeing the situation from the other person's point of view.• Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such away. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation.• Reflect on times you've hurt others and on those who've forgiven you.• Write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation — or talk with a person you've found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one or friend.• Be aware that forgiveness is a process, and even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven over and over again.Does forgiveness guarantee reconciliation?If the hurtful event involved someone whose relationship you otherwise value, forgiveness can lead to reconciliation. This isn't always the case, however.Reconciliation might be impossible if the offender has died or is unwilling to communicate with you. In other cases, reconciliation might not be appropriate. Still, forgiveness is possible — even if reconciliation isn't.What if the person I'm forgiving doesn't change?Getting another person to change his or her actions, behavior or words isn't the point of forgiveness. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life — by bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to wield in your life.What if I'm the one who needs forgiveness?The first step is to honestly assess and acknowledge the wrongs you've done and how they have affected others. Avoid judging yourself too harshly.If you're truly sorry for something you've said or done, consider admitting it to those you've harmed. Speak of your sincere sorrow or regret, and ask for forgiveness — without making excuses.Remember, however, you can't force someone to forgive you. Others need to move to forgiveness in their own time. Whatever happens, commit to treating others with compassion, empathy, and respect.

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  • 1 month ago

    In my personal opinion yes it is because sometimes you need to forgive the person who hurt you, not because they deserve it but for peace of mind. Forgiveness is for you not them and it’s important to forgive yourself also, holding grudges and resenting someone for hurting you isn’t good for your mental health. Forgiveness is a process but as they say time heals all wounds, however just because you forgive someone for hurting you it doesn’t mean you need to have that person in your life and sometimes keeping a distance from certain people is the only way forward, if they are toxic it’s best to stay away from these types of people.

  • 1 month ago

    It is considered emotionally healthy to forgive everyone including yourself. If you want to be happy and have peace of mind then it is wise to forgive and forget. Even if you don't like someone.

    Holding grudges and resentment is part of negative emotions and unhealthy.

  • 1 month ago

    No, you should never forgive someone unless they proove they should be forgiven

  • 1 month ago

    No it's not. But, sometimes we have to accept people. For instance, sometimes we have to accept that someone in our lives is a real jerk, but we still want them as part of our lives. So, some people who come from abusive homes choose to end all contact, but most choose to accept something like, "My dad's a real ******, but he's still my dad," and then have very little to do with him, without cutting him out altogether. 

  • yes if you can, because being resentful will only harm you in the long run.

  • 1 month ago

    It would depend what they did.

    They could have hurt you and your family.

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